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Funeral Wake Ceremony

friends taking care of each others during a funeral wake ceremony

After the death of a loved one, the family and friends of the deceased would plan for a funeral wake ceremony. It is an event where they gather to share love and respect for the one they lost.

Losing someone you love is one of the hardest feelings that takes time to overcome. When sharing it with friends and family, you can express your thoughts and tell your memories aloud to try to accept their death. Having wakes, whether before or after the funeral, allows bereaved family members to show support, care, and condolence.


Wake Ceremony Is a Way to Show your Condolence for the Loss of a Loved One

Friends showing condolence to their bereaved friend
Hard times will be less bitter with family and friends.

Why Is It Called Wake?

Historically, the word “wake” referred to a late-night prayer held for a saint. Over time, “wake” meant to watch or guard the dead body before burial. Some believe that “wake” refers to a plague that hit the countryside. This disease made the body look dead. When the family starts to mourn, the person “wakes up.”

Nowadays, a wake ceremony is associated with an event that may accompany a funeral. The bereaved join together to support each other.


Is a Wake Before or After Funeral?

Traditionally, families planned for wakes before a funeral, where relatives and friends got a last chance to say goodbye to the deceased’s body. During the wakes held before funerals, the main focus was the religious rites.

Recently, wake ceremonies are held after the funeral. Their main purpose is to memorialize the deceased and cater to those attending an informal social event. A wake ceremony has become more personalized with specific colors, flowers, and catering.


What Happens at a Funeral Wake?

A funeral wake ceremony is an opportunity to share a story, a memory, or an incident you experienced with the deceased. It happens in a safe environment with like-minded people. It is also another chance to share the grief with the family, especially if you couldn’t attend the funeral for any reason.

Usually, food and drink are served during the ceremony. Sometimes, the family may plan an activity that the mourners can participate in. Sharing these moments will help soothe the pain a little with light smiles and dear memories. It helps mourners and the bereaved accept the death of their loved ones.


Losing a Loved One Is Heartbreaking

A bereaved young lady feeling sad at a funeral wake ceremony
Share your sorrows!

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I bring to a funeral wake?

You can give the bereaved family a sympathy card with a line expressing your feeling. If you knew there were no catering, you could get some food.

Is a wake ceremony necessary?

It is not obligatory to have a wake each time someone dies. But families and friends may plan for one to have an informal gathering remembering the dearly departed.